As Mr. and Mrs.

Running Down The Aisle

Can’t believe that a month has already passed since our big day! Ang bilis din…parang kailan lang that we we’re so busy with all the wedding preps!

Ge + Maan with their wedding coordinator (Jody Liwanag), details diva (Ernest Pascual) and stylist (Teddy Manuel) on one of their evening meetings.

Ge + Maan with their wedding coordinator (Jody Liwanag), details diva (Ernest Pascual) and stylist (Teddy Manuel) during one of their evening meetings.

Looking back, preparing for our wedding was but a whirlwind of events, scattered through May 2012 to December 2013 including but not limited to:

  • making sure we completed all the requirements for marriage (takot lang namin kung di namin magawa ‘to haha) going back and forth to Talisay, Batangas and Midlands, getting the sacrament of confirmation and attending the very sulit and highly recommended Discovery Weekend (pre-cana seminar/workshop)!
  • Decision making for all the never-ending details of the wedding: choosing who, what, when, where and how –> And STANDING BY these decisions (which, I think, is the harder part, haha)
  • Cris-crossing in and around Manila (Binondo, Makati, MOA, QC) to find the perfect wedding rings, socks, shoes etc. (because you just couldn’t wear black heels with a Veluz gown!)
  • “Window shopping” through all the possible details we see everywhere in malls and RESISTING temptations!
  • Posing for NOT one, but TWO engagement sessions by non-other than Mimi+Karl, PLUS creating one do-it-yourself save-the-date video shot in Cebu haha!
  • Meetings and appointments with the suppliers scheduled on after-dinner hours just because we’re busy like that
  • And so much more that I think this needs a separate post. 🙂

But amidst all the toxicity of the preps along with our busy schedules in residency, the wedding still went great with no major hitches; And for that we are grateful!

The wedding went so beautifully that until now, we can’t stop reliving all the memories and details of that day. We were just so happy with everything!

12/07/13

12/07/13

Although the wedding is over, we’ll still update this blog as we share our memories on our big day, because as much as we are part of the celebration, YOU are too! 😀

So for our first post as husband and wife, here’s our wedding Same Day Edit (SDE) video by the master Threelogy videographer Bong Sare.

Enjoy!

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Tandem Love

Tandem love ❤ #engagementshoot #mimiandkarl

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A preview of the second part of our engagement shoot. 🙂 Thanks to our great photographers Mimi+Karl! We had our first shoot in Manila back in September during the heavy rain of Typhoon Pablo. Now that the weather is much clearer, and with the sun *still* shining, we had this last session in Diliman.

For our guests, don’t forget to tag your photos of our wedding with the #geandmaan hashtag! 😀

DIY Engagement Video: Ge & Maan Conquer Cebu!

This is our DIY self-produced engagement video. 🙂

Armed with a camera and a tripod, we had an awesome pre-toxicity spur-of-the-moment vacation to the Queen City of the South with great weather, very relaxing accommodations, and amazingly lots of foooood!!! Here are some video clips of our Cebu trip. Enjoy!

Pictures to follow 🙂

NAIA Terminal 3
Crimson Resort & Spa Mactan
Tune Hotel Cebu City
Edge Coaster, Crowne Regency Hotel
Larsian Barbeque
Magellan’s Cross
Basilica Minore
Island Souvenirs (haha)
Maya Restaurant
Crossroads
Mactan International Airport

Music: Son of a Gun (We Have Fun) by For The Foxes
All shots taken using Canon EOS M & iPhone 4s
Edited with iMovie

Deciding When and Where

Obviously, one of the first steps in planning a wedding is deciding WHEN and WHERE to hold it. Aside from it being two of the most frequently asked questions to any newly engaged couple, the answers to these two simple questions sets the ball rolling in deciding on the other million things to decide on in wedding planning.

But do not be deceived as to how simple these two questions are. They are, I think, two of the most difficult ones to be answered as there are many factors that you need to consider like your budget, availability of yourself, your partner as well as your important family members, proximity to your  guests, and superstitions/traditions in choosing the right/lucky day.

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DECIDING WHEN

For our case, we didn’t have much trouble deciding WHEN to hold the wedding. We instinctively wanted to hold it on our 10th anniversary, May 22, 2014 para meaningful pa rin, but at this time we would be more busy in our training programs (Maan will be 4th year/senior resident and I will be a 1st year/junior fellow). We then decided on December 2013, so that we’re still both in third year, less demands in training, and to have more time in the preps. We also figured that a 1.5 year long engagement is just enough preparation before the wedding. Despite being in the peak-season, a December wedding also allows our balikbayan relatives to join us in our wedding. 🙂

We want our wedding to fall on a weekend so that our guests (mostly fellow doctors) would be available to celebrate with us, preferably a Saturday so that there’s no work the following day. December 7th was then perfect. This would allow us to have at least a week off from work for honeymoon before returning to work mid-December in time for the moratorium for PGH residents: no leaves on the last two weeks of December.

DECIDING WHERE

One of the first things we decided is WHERE to hold the wedding. We want our wedding to be a destination wedding but also want it to be a accessible to our guests, especially our co-residents coming from PGH. We eventually narrowed it down to three locations: Tagaytay, Batangas or just hold it here in Manila. But since Tagaytay has a special place in our hearts (thats where we had our final “date” before she answered my question, cheesy haha), we decided to hold our wedding in the breezy, cool city in Cavite.

Maan, who instantly and expectantly became so engrossed in wedding planning the moment I proposed (haha!) bought three wedding magazines in one go! In one of the magazines was a feature about Tagaytay weddings. It said that in Tagaytay there were only a handful of available churches/chapels, but lots of possible venues for the reception. What intrigued Maan was the exclusive chapel located at Tagaytay Midlands, the Madre De Dios Chapel. Upon seeing the beautiful pictures of this cozy-small chapel, she immediately texted me that SHE WAS SOLD. 🙂

I then told her that we must keep our options open for other places especially if we wanted to hold the wedding in December, baka fully-booked na (this was around June 2012, 1.5 years away pa when we were deciding!). So when we both had a free Saturday, we headed to Tagaytay to do an “ocular” of some of our finalists:

1. Transfiguration Chapel (Caleruega)

Taken on our pilgrimage to Tagaytay for our medical board exams last 2010

Taken on our pilgrimage to Tagaytay for our medical board exams last 2010

Maan and I have been to Caleruega before with our brods and sisses in our Tagaytay trip during boards review.  With the cool mountain breeze with lush gardens surrounding the church on top of a hill, we knew then that this was a great place to get married. But as one of the most sought-after churches in the Tagaytay area for weddings, we knew that Caleruega would be a tough choice for us. Unfortunately (or fortunately), this was easily scratched off our list since all its December weekends were FULLY BOOKED already when we inquired. (Again this was sometime around June 2012! Crazy right?!) Besides, we were not sure if this chapel is big enough to accommodate our guests.

2. Chapel on the Hill (Don Bosco Batulao)

This circular chapel reminds me of the Parish of the Holy Sacrifice in UP Diliman

This circular chapel reminds me of the Parish of the Holy Sacrifice in UP Diliman

Scenic view of Mt. Batulao from one side of Chapel on the Hill

Scenic view of Mt. Batulao from one side of Chapel on the Hill

This is the chapel near Caleruega and was our 1st runner up. We fell in love with the circular chapel and its breathtaking view of Mt. Batulao outside! We fell so in love with the church that we almost paid the downpayment for reservation of our chosen date! But after much deliberation, we realized that we didn’t have many options on where to hold the reception if we hold the ceremony on this side of Tagaytay (Batangas side). So again, we scratched this off our list.

3. Our Lady of Lourdes Parish

Because this is a parish, this I think is the biggest church in Tagaytay located along the highway itself. This would be a great option for a big wedding because of its 1) proximity to the Tagaytay city center; 2) there are a lot of reception venues located near this church, 3) did I say it’s huge? haha. But Maan didn’t want a big church for our wedding, so yet again, we scratched this off our list. We didn’t even bother going there during our ocular.

4.  Madre De Dios Chapel (Tagaytay Midlands)

We finally decided to give Tagaytay Midlands a visit along with our families. I’ve been to Highlands many times before but was never able to go down to Midlands so it was both our first time to see the chapel when we scheduled our visit there.

P-E-R-F-E-C-T-!

P-E-R-F-E-C-T-!

Our first impression of the church: PERFECT. 🙂 The chapel was not as tiny as Caleruega or Chapel on the Hill as it comfortably sits around 200 guests. With its high painted white walls and ceiling contrasted by dark wooden beams, the coziness of this chapel is just perfect for a very solemn Tagaytay wedding. It also offers a great view of the Taal lake! What more can you ask for?! Maan also loved that the altar is not as “traditional” looking as with old churches. One of the drawbacks in choosing this chapel however is that it has a short aisle for the bridal march. But Maan seemed not to be deterred by this fact so we went for it and reserved the chapel the following week. (Here is a great write up from Weddings in the Philippines website about the chapel)

Taal Lake View from The Veranda Clubhouse

Taal Lake View from The Veranda Clubhouse

A great feature of having your wedding in Madre De Dios is that you wouldn’t have a problem on choosing where to hold the reception as The Veranda clubhouse is just an escalator ride away! This is very convenient for all the guests since they don’t have to ride cars going to the reception after the ceremony. However, one downside to this is that you wouldn’t have a choice of a caterer since you’re limited to getting food and drinks exclusively from them.

Tagaytay Midlands Country Club (image taken from http://tagaytayhighlands.com)

Tagaytay Midlands Country Club (image taken from http://tagaytayhighlands.com)

So as early as late August last year (about 1 year and 4 months before the wedding) we already finalized WHEN and WHERE. Akala namin we’re going to breeze through the other decisions, but boy we’re we wrong! This was only half the journey, but half is really not that bad is it? 🙂

Below are some pictures I took when we went to Midlands for our second ocular and food tasting this August (one year after booking it!). There was a wedding about to happen that afternoon so the place was set-up already! Too bad it was raining hard that time (Habagat hay..) so the view wasn’t that spectacular as we first saw it last year.

Contact Details

Madre De Dios Chapel, Tagaytay Midlands
banquets@tagaytayhighlands.com
+63 (46) 483-3657|+63 (46) 483-0820 / 3657
http://www.tagaytayhighlands.com/

The Night

This post is the last part of my 6-part proposal story. Haha. I’ve been writing, or trying to write this, for the last 12 months but couldn’t really sit on it. Mostly because residency has been really very taxing,  leaving me dead tired on most of my off-duty the moments, dozing off to sleep and not get anything done. But, from time to time, we do get a small break from all these toxicity and get a relatively more benign (not toxic) rotation such as Surgical ICU (SICU), where we go on straight 48 hour duties taking care of only 6 (or more) patients in the ICU, and get 2-3 days off — literally. 🙂 Well, it should be spent on studying and doing our research requirements, but writing my backlog wouldn’t hurt now, would it. So anyway, I digress…let’s get this thing going.

Being a year late in writing, this post is only a recollection of what happened on a very special night last May 22, 2012 — the night that I proposed to Maan. I hope I do justice to what actually happened on that momentous night. For more background to this story, you could read the other parts here:

The day started out with two-dozens of roses being delivered at the OB resident’s lounge. I ordered them just the night before from Islandrose.net (Thanks to this service, I didn’t have to go to Bambang unlike before hehe). I was sure happy they delivered on the dot! I had a note attached to the roses:

The last time I gave flowers before this was on February 2005, our first Valentine's Day together as a couple, hindi na nasundan, until this. :)

The last time I gave flowers before this was on February 2005, our first Valentine’s Day together as a couple, hindi na nasundan, until this. 🙂

I hoped that she wouldn’t get an idea because of them flowers. But I thought I just had to do it, a grand gesture to celebrate our 8 years together, and as a prelude to what’t about to happen that night.

I was at the OR the whole morning, and good thing we endorsed early that day and I had enough time to go home and “practice” Haha. That day, I already told a couple of friends what I’m planning and even showed them what I prepared. This included a trip to Derma OPD to tell our batchmates Miya and Kathy, (who both screamed at the top of their lungs the moment they knew! HAHAHA) and a one-on-one session with Kitts to and get a good feedback. My feelings were haywire that day. Di maipinta kung gaano kalakas ang kaba ko! I could literally feel my heart thumping.

The evening came and I fetched Maan from her condo. We arrived at The Bayleaf around 7pm and went straight to the 9th floor at 9 Spoons and climbed up the stairs to go to the Sky Deck. It was a windy and starry evening, with no clouds in sight. Perfect weather, I remembered.

The night started as a regular anniversary dinner, but soon Maan found out what I've been busy doing for the last two weeks!

The night started as a regular anniversary dinner, but soon Maan found out what I’ve been busy doing for the last two weeks!

We chose a table just beside the viewing deck, where we could see the great view of the Intramuros golf course below us and the Manila skyline in the background. The head waiter was there to welcome us as I signaled him with my eyes to prepare my “surprise” for the night, hopefully going well as planned.

Sky deck view. Too bad I wasn't able to get a good picture of this superb view

Sky deck view. Too bad I wasn’t able to get a good picture of this superb view

This calmed my nerves pretty well. I was feeling a little mature that night so I ordered Cerveza instead of the usual SanMig

This calmed my nerves pretty well. I was feeling a little “mature” that night so I ordered Cerveza instead of the usual SanMig, haha

While still indulging ourselves with the awesome view, I asked Maan if she wanted to order first before we take pictures. “YES!” she replied, haha, I knew it, we were starving. So we ordered two appetizers, two main courses, and some drinks. I needed a drink ASAP, just to calm my uncontrollable nerves! My palms were sweating like no end and felt my balls up my throat! Haha.

Honestly, up to the moment that I asked her, I still had doubts as to our readiness to be engaged. “Is this the right time to ask?” “What if she says no?” “What if her parents say no?” “What if we’re still not ready?” But in retrospect, in a decision like this, I think you’ll never, ever be sure. So I just told myself to suck it up and just do it!

Earlier that afternoon, I called my mom to tell her what I planned to do that night. I distinctly remember our conversation:

Ge: “Mom, are you busy?”
Mom: “No, nasa meeting lang, bakit anak? Happy anniversary pala!”
Ge: “Uh, thanks, uh…magpo-propose na ako kay Maan mamaya.” (haha telling her in a matter-of-fact way, not really asking hahaha)
Mom: “Ano?” (parang hindi narinig nang maayos, haha)
Ge: “Magpopropose na ako!”
Mom: “Whaaaaaat!!! Wow!!! Talaga?!? Are you sure? Anong plano mo?” (hahaha, I was laughing really hard when I heard this, parang mix of surpirse and amazement that I’m deciding all of this all by myself!)
Ge: “We’ll have dinner later, then I’ll ask her. Ok na yun.”
Mom: “Wow! Ok. Good luck! Balitaan mo kaagad kami! Sabihan ko si Dad!”

I never told my parents of what my plans was but I’m sure they were hinting me since a few years back, asking me stuff like “Ano na plano nyo ni Maan?” whenever I go home on my free weekends. They’ve known Maan for years already and have always treated her like a daughter. I knew of course that they wouldn’t have any doubts in my decision to marry her.

While waiting for the food, we took a few pictures by the view deck. She told me she was really surprised at me for giving her roses that morning, and two-dozens at that! Haha. (I was still hoping she didn’t have any idea)

This is a great place to unwind after a busy day at the hospital, malapit lang pati!

This is a great place to unwind after a busy day at the hospital, malapit lang pati!

Candle light dinner. Plus pogi points!

Candle light dinner. Plus pogi points!

A few minutes later, the food finally arrived.

Delicious appetizer just because Maan wanted to try the international sausages they had at 9 Spoons haha

Sausage Platter: Delicious appetizer just because Maan wanted to try the international sausages they had at 9 Spoons

Pritson Rolls: Another appetizer we had because it's one of our favorites! It was delicious, but we never finished it and even took some home for take-out, haha

Pritson Rolls: Another appetizer we had because it’s one of our favorites! It was delicious, but we never finished it and even took some home for take-out, haha

Fried Hainanese Chicken

Fried Hainanese Chicken: Maan read somewhere that their Hainanese chicken was great so we definitely tried it! They sure did deliver! Sarap! This came with Hainanese rice on the side.

Crispy Tadyang

Crispy Tadyang: Because I was feeling adventurous and wanted meat so I ordered this fried back-rib. It was good but I’m sure they had better meat selection. Poor choice, boo.

Dahil sobra sobra ang kaba ko that night, my appetite was not as huge as it was. I only ate half of the tadyang, and some hainanese chicken. I didn’t even finish my pritson roll. Maan found it really odd, pero siyempre di ako nagpahuli. Haha. I just told her I was really tired…

She then asked for the menu for us to order desserts. “Naku!” I thought, “Baka magorder siya then sabihin ng waiter na may order na ako!”

A few days earlier, I called Bayleaf to ask if they offered something special for a marriage proposal. The manager told me they could write something on the plates of their desserts. It was perfect, I thought, especially because we Maan and I are both huge fans of desserts! So I finalized the plan with Bayleaf and reserved our dinner.

Another thing I prepared for that night was an AVP. I know that I am not really good with words when I’m speaking, so I decided to just express my feelings through something that I do best: a video of our pictures for the last 8 years. While doing the video, I became emotional seeing how we both grew together, not only physically (haha, tumaba at pumayat na sabay) but also growing with all the experiences we had (surviving intarmed, then med school, and now residency, traveling, eating and studying together). So, for two weeks before the proposal, I was busy browsing pictures, choosing the best ones, recalling all our memories together, and re-ordering them in such a way that at the end of the video is a question that I’ve been meaning to ask her. 🙂 I chose one of her favorite songs This Way by Jewel, and what else but the cliche proposal song Marry Me by Train. Hehe.

After seeing the possible problem, I then told Maan that I needed to go to the restroom and just wait for me before ordering. “Aha, a good escuse to ask the waiters to execute THE PLAN!

So I acted like I was going to the restroom but actually was heading towards the head waiter. After confirming that the desserts I pre-ordered were already ready, and briefing the waiters on what to do, and asking one of them to take our video and picture, I came back to our table and asked Maan what she wanted.

She wanted the Calamansi cheesecake, and I told her I wanted some Churos and the Mango crepe. So I ordered. Little did she know that all those were already pre-ordered. Hahaha.

Then I told her I had a surprise for her. I took out my iPad and showed her this video:

As the video was about to end, I signaled the waiters to serve these deserts while Maan was still busy looking at the iPad screen:

Will You Marry Me?

I told the waiters to serve these delicious desserts while Maan was still busy viewing the video on my iPad. 🙂

When the waiters finished serving, sakto!, the video also ended. She saw the desserts in our table and she was saying “Oh my God!”.  I took the ring out of my pocket (buti she didn’t notice!) and showed her, bent down on one knee and asked her: “Maria Angela de Castro, will you marry me?”

Well, of course she said yes!

She said YES!

She said YES!

We're getting married!

We’re getting married!

We immediately called our parents and texted our friends giving them the great news! Natawa lang ako when a friend asked me, “Congrats! Is it facebook official?!”, haha. We didn’t have internet at that time so when we checked FB after, we were surprised to see that a few others have already expressed their congratulations there. Hahaha! We later finally posted this:

FB

I was really happy that everything went through as planned. Special thanks to my co-conspirators for all your support:

  • Alvin Chu – my batchmate for going with me to Binondo to get the ring, and plan the proposal! Masyadong effort yung may kanta-kanta pa at post-it from friends, haha, hindi kinaya ng schedule ko, but that would’ve also been a great proposal story!
  • Ly-ann Diwa & my other surgery batchmates – Ly for being my co-rotator in Plastics and cheering me on and calming me down nung nawiwindang na ako haha. Nagwork-out din lahat ng plano! 🙂
  • Kitts Mejia, JA Atienza and Meiling Lee – for always being there when I need you guys, especially making me realize that I’m making the rightest decision ever. 🙂
  • Miya Dayrit and Kathy Reyes – for screaming and crying at the Derma OPD! Haha, nabisto tuloy tayo nina Joey! I showed you the video without telling na magpopropose na ako kay Maan, tas nagulat na lang kayo in the end with the question. Hahaha. 🙂

And of course, thank you Maan for giving me the chance to do all of these. Thanks for accepting my proposal as we finally commit to spending the rest of our lives together! I love you very much! 🙂

Our first picture together as an engaged couple. :)

Our first picture together as an engaged couple. 🙂

San Miguel Church’s Weekly Confirmation

We’re finally getting our Sacrament of Confirmation on August 4! Haha. We need to find a ninong or a ninang though, any volunteers?

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Here are things you need to know if you plan on getting confirmed at San Miguel Manila:

  • Confirmation schedules: every Thursday at 2:30pm and every Sunday at 10:00am — San Miguel no longer has the Saturday schedule
  • Be there an hour early since there will be registration and seminar
  • Walk-ins are accepted. No need to phone for reservation
  • Make sure you have already received the Sacrament of Reconciliation (confession)
  • Bring your baptismal certificate and a photocopy of it (the photocopy will be submitted to the chaplain). If getting married, the baptismal cert should bear the annotation: FOR MARRIAGE PURPOSES ONLY
  • Bring a pen to fill out the registration form
  • 1 pair of sponsors (ninong and ninang) — But you can bring just 1 ninong OR ninang. If your sponsors are not available, you may bring a proxy
  • Make sure you know the home addresses of your chosen sponsors (these are…

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