Deciding When and Where

Obviously, one of the first steps in planning a wedding is deciding WHEN and WHERE to hold it. Aside from it being two of the most frequently asked questions to any newly engaged couple, the answers to these two simple questions sets the ball rolling in deciding on the other million things to decide on in wedding planning.

But do not be deceived as to how simple these two questions are. They are, I think, two of the most difficult ones to be answered as there are many factors that you need to consider like your budget, availability of yourself, your partner as well as your important family members, proximity to your  guests, and superstitions/traditions in choosing the right/lucky day.

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DECIDING WHEN

For our case, we didn’t have much trouble deciding WHEN to hold the wedding. We instinctively wanted to hold it on our 10th anniversary, May 22, 2014 para meaningful pa rin, but at this time we would be more busy in our training programs (Maan will be 4th year/senior resident and I will be a 1st year/junior fellow). We then decided on December 2013, so that we’re still both in third year, less demands in training, and to have more time in the preps. We also figured that a 1.5 year long engagement is just enough preparation before the wedding. Despite being in the peak-season, a December wedding also allows our balikbayan relatives to join us in our wedding. 🙂

We want our wedding to fall on a weekend so that our guests (mostly fellow doctors) would be available to celebrate with us, preferably a Saturday so that there’s no work the following day. December 7th was then perfect. This would allow us to have at least a week off from work for honeymoon before returning to work mid-December in time for the moratorium for PGH residents: no leaves on the last two weeks of December.

DECIDING WHERE

One of the first things we decided is WHERE to hold the wedding. We want our wedding to be a destination wedding but also want it to be a accessible to our guests, especially our co-residents coming from PGH. We eventually narrowed it down to three locations: Tagaytay, Batangas or just hold it here in Manila. But since Tagaytay has a special place in our hearts (thats where we had our final “date” before she answered my question, cheesy haha), we decided to hold our wedding in the breezy, cool city in Cavite.

Maan, who instantly and expectantly became so engrossed in wedding planning the moment I proposed (haha!) bought three wedding magazines in one go! In one of the magazines was a feature about Tagaytay weddings. It said that in Tagaytay there were only a handful of available churches/chapels, but lots of possible venues for the reception. What intrigued Maan was the exclusive chapel located at Tagaytay Midlands, the Madre De Dios Chapel. Upon seeing the beautiful pictures of this cozy-small chapel, she immediately texted me that SHE WAS SOLD. 🙂

I then told her that we must keep our options open for other places especially if we wanted to hold the wedding in December, baka fully-booked na (this was around June 2012, 1.5 years away pa when we were deciding!). So when we both had a free Saturday, we headed to Tagaytay to do an “ocular” of some of our finalists:

1. Transfiguration Chapel (Caleruega)

Taken on our pilgrimage to Tagaytay for our medical board exams last 2010

Taken on our pilgrimage to Tagaytay for our medical board exams last 2010

Maan and I have been to Caleruega before with our brods and sisses in our Tagaytay trip during boards review.  With the cool mountain breeze with lush gardens surrounding the church on top of a hill, we knew then that this was a great place to get married. But as one of the most sought-after churches in the Tagaytay area for weddings, we knew that Caleruega would be a tough choice for us. Unfortunately (or fortunately), this was easily scratched off our list since all its December weekends were FULLY BOOKED already when we inquired. (Again this was sometime around June 2012! Crazy right?!) Besides, we were not sure if this chapel is big enough to accommodate our guests.

2. Chapel on the Hill (Don Bosco Batulao)

This circular chapel reminds me of the Parish of the Holy Sacrifice in UP Diliman

This circular chapel reminds me of the Parish of the Holy Sacrifice in UP Diliman

Scenic view of Mt. Batulao from one side of Chapel on the Hill

Scenic view of Mt. Batulao from one side of Chapel on the Hill

This is the chapel near Caleruega and was our 1st runner up. We fell in love with the circular chapel and its breathtaking view of Mt. Batulao outside! We fell so in love with the church that we almost paid the downpayment for reservation of our chosen date! But after much deliberation, we realized that we didn’t have many options on where to hold the reception if we hold the ceremony on this side of Tagaytay (Batangas side). So again, we scratched this off our list.

3. Our Lady of Lourdes Parish

Because this is a parish, this I think is the biggest church in Tagaytay located along the highway itself. This would be a great option for a big wedding because of its 1) proximity to the Tagaytay city center; 2) there are a lot of reception venues located near this church, 3) did I say it’s huge? haha. But Maan didn’t want a big church for our wedding, so yet again, we scratched this off our list. We didn’t even bother going there during our ocular.

4.  Madre De Dios Chapel (Tagaytay Midlands)

We finally decided to give Tagaytay Midlands a visit along with our families. I’ve been to Highlands many times before but was never able to go down to Midlands so it was both our first time to see the chapel when we scheduled our visit there.

P-E-R-F-E-C-T-!

P-E-R-F-E-C-T-!

Our first impression of the church: PERFECT. 🙂 The chapel was not as tiny as Caleruega or Chapel on the Hill as it comfortably sits around 200 guests. With its high painted white walls and ceiling contrasted by dark wooden beams, the coziness of this chapel is just perfect for a very solemn Tagaytay wedding. It also offers a great view of the Taal lake! What more can you ask for?! Maan also loved that the altar is not as “traditional” looking as with old churches. One of the drawbacks in choosing this chapel however is that it has a short aisle for the bridal march. But Maan seemed not to be deterred by this fact so we went for it and reserved the chapel the following week. (Here is a great write up from Weddings in the Philippines website about the chapel)

Taal Lake View from The Veranda Clubhouse

Taal Lake View from The Veranda Clubhouse

A great feature of having your wedding in Madre De Dios is that you wouldn’t have a problem on choosing where to hold the reception as The Veranda clubhouse is just an escalator ride away! This is very convenient for all the guests since they don’t have to ride cars going to the reception after the ceremony. However, one downside to this is that you wouldn’t have a choice of a caterer since you’re limited to getting food and drinks exclusively from them.

Tagaytay Midlands Country Club (image taken from http://tagaytayhighlands.com)

Tagaytay Midlands Country Club (image taken from http://tagaytayhighlands.com)

So as early as late August last year (about 1 year and 4 months before the wedding) we already finalized WHEN and WHERE. Akala namin we’re going to breeze through the other decisions, but boy we’re we wrong! This was only half the journey, but half is really not that bad is it? 🙂

Below are some pictures I took when we went to Midlands for our second ocular and food tasting this August (one year after booking it!). There was a wedding about to happen that afternoon so the place was set-up already! Too bad it was raining hard that time (Habagat hay..) so the view wasn’t that spectacular as we first saw it last year.

Contact Details

Madre De Dios Chapel, Tagaytay Midlands
banquets@tagaytayhighlands.com
+63 (46) 483-3657|+63 (46) 483-0820 / 3657
http://www.tagaytayhighlands.com/

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Maan’s Birthday Dinner at Cova

Maan recently celebrated her birthday and is now officially OLDER than me. Haha. And yet again, we celebrated it with our favorite activity together…EATING! 🙂

Cova Tapas y Sangria

Cova Tapas y Sangria

We ate at Cova Tapas y Sangria, a contemporary, modern spanish restaurant & bar at Jupiter St., Makati known for one of the best tapas and sangria in town. Being the self-proclaimed foodie that she is, and professing her love for Spanish dishes & SANGRIA, she has been EGGING me to bring her to Cova (because she read this & this) for the longest time. So again, dahil birthday nga naman niya, reservations were made and we had one of the best dinners we’ve had. 😀

Earlier that day, I finally bought a new camera, a Canon EOS M, which I’ve been thinking of buying for ages. Matagal ko nang gusto, pero naghihintay lang ng sign kung bibili na ba talaga ako. A few days before Maan’s birthday, while searching in the mall for a gift, I saw that it was on sale. Let me repeat for emphasis, ON SALE. Haha. So I then called Maan, and spoiled my surprise and told her I have a gift for me the birthday girl. Or was it really a gift for myself? Haha, ako na ang may birthday. I then explained to her how great this camera was, and what great pictures we’ll have in Japan this December!

So we tried out the camera that night…and hence these pictures capturing our great night, in low light, vivid colors and a low depth of field. 🙂

Capturing a moment when you were exactly 28 years old

Capturing a moment when you were exactly 28 years old

Shine bright like a diamond (how cliche haha)

Shine bright like a diamond (how cliche haha)

Testing the miniature/tilt-shift effect

Testing the miniature/tilt-shift effect

Free bread is always welcome

Free bread is always welcome

Pintxo de Queso Frito: fried gruyere, honey, caramelized onions

Pintxo de Queso Frito: fried gruyere, honey, caramelized onions

Gambas Racion - shrimp! :)

Gambas Racion – shrimp! 🙂

Salpicao Ternera: Wagyu beef salpicao, the best salpicao I've ever tasted, and probably the priciest too. haha

Salpicao Ternera: Wagyu beef salpicao, the best salpicao I’ve ever tasted, and probably the priciest too. haha

Huevos Cabreados: Fried eggs, shoestring potatoes, crispy chorizo, alioli - SARAP!!!

Huevos Cabreados: Fried eggs, shoestring potatoes, crispy chorizo, alioli – SARAP!!!

Arroz Negro: soft shell crab, mussels, squid, prawns, alioli - not really my favorite paella but the black ink is definitely worth trying

Arroz Negro: soft shell crab, mussels, squid, prawns, alioli – not really my favorite paella but the black ink is definitely worth trying

Apple Bunuelos: regular apple fritters with speculoos dip

Apple Bunelos: regular apple fritters with speculoos dip

Since Maan is such a foodie (i.e. willing to try anything new, upcoming and the best food anywhere) and I’m just an eater, I’ve been telling her to write reviews here on our blog. I’ve never attempted in reviewing a food place, di naman kasi ako mapagkakatiwalaan sa ganyan, kasi para sa akin, lahat ng pagkain, MASARAP! 🙂 Haha.

Here are some more pictures:

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Cova Tapas y Sangria: 22 Jupiter Street, Makati
Tel: (02) 478-9700

The Night

This post is the last part of my 6-part proposal story. Haha. I’ve been writing, or trying to write this, for the last 12 months but couldn’t really sit on it. Mostly because residency has been really very taxing,  leaving me dead tired on most of my off-duty the moments, dozing off to sleep and not get anything done. But, from time to time, we do get a small break from all these toxicity and get a relatively more benign (not toxic) rotation such as Surgical ICU (SICU), where we go on straight 48 hour duties taking care of only 6 (or more) patients in the ICU, and get 2-3 days off — literally. 🙂 Well, it should be spent on studying and doing our research requirements, but writing my backlog wouldn’t hurt now, would it. So anyway, I digress…let’s get this thing going.

Being a year late in writing, this post is only a recollection of what happened on a very special night last May 22, 2012 — the night that I proposed to Maan. I hope I do justice to what actually happened on that momentous night. For more background to this story, you could read the other parts here:

The day started out with two-dozens of roses being delivered at the OB resident’s lounge. I ordered them just the night before from Islandrose.net (Thanks to this service, I didn’t have to go to Bambang unlike before hehe). I was sure happy they delivered on the dot! I had a note attached to the roses:

The last time I gave flowers before this was on February 2005, our first Valentine's Day together as a couple, hindi na nasundan, until this. :)

The last time I gave flowers before this was on February 2005, our first Valentine’s Day together as a couple, hindi na nasundan, until this. 🙂

I hoped that she wouldn’t get an idea because of them flowers. But I thought I just had to do it, a grand gesture to celebrate our 8 years together, and as a prelude to what’t about to happen that night.

I was at the OR the whole morning, and good thing we endorsed early that day and I had enough time to go home and “practice” Haha. That day, I already told a couple of friends what I’m planning and even showed them what I prepared. This included a trip to Derma OPD to tell our batchmates Miya and Kathy, (who both screamed at the top of their lungs the moment they knew! HAHAHA) and a one-on-one session with Kitts to and get a good feedback. My feelings were haywire that day. Di maipinta kung gaano kalakas ang kaba ko! I could literally feel my heart thumping.

The evening came and I fetched Maan from her condo. We arrived at The Bayleaf around 7pm and went straight to the 9th floor at 9 Spoons and climbed up the stairs to go to the Sky Deck. It was a windy and starry evening, with no clouds in sight. Perfect weather, I remembered.

The night started as a regular anniversary dinner, but soon Maan found out what I've been busy doing for the last two weeks!

The night started as a regular anniversary dinner, but soon Maan found out what I’ve been busy doing for the last two weeks!

We chose a table just beside the viewing deck, where we could see the great view of the Intramuros golf course below us and the Manila skyline in the background. The head waiter was there to welcome us as I signaled him with my eyes to prepare my “surprise” for the night, hopefully going well as planned.

Sky deck view. Too bad I wasn't able to get a good picture of this superb view

Sky deck view. Too bad I wasn’t able to get a good picture of this superb view

This calmed my nerves pretty well. I was feeling a little mature that night so I ordered Cerveza instead of the usual SanMig

This calmed my nerves pretty well. I was feeling a little “mature” that night so I ordered Cerveza instead of the usual SanMig, haha

While still indulging ourselves with the awesome view, I asked Maan if she wanted to order first before we take pictures. “YES!” she replied, haha, I knew it, we were starving. So we ordered two appetizers, two main courses, and some drinks. I needed a drink ASAP, just to calm my uncontrollable nerves! My palms were sweating like no end and felt my balls up my throat! Haha.

Honestly, up to the moment that I asked her, I still had doubts as to our readiness to be engaged. “Is this the right time to ask?” “What if she says no?” “What if her parents say no?” “What if we’re still not ready?” But in retrospect, in a decision like this, I think you’ll never, ever be sure. So I just told myself to suck it up and just do it!

Earlier that afternoon, I called my mom to tell her what I planned to do that night. I distinctly remember our conversation:

Ge: “Mom, are you busy?”
Mom: “No, nasa meeting lang, bakit anak? Happy anniversary pala!”
Ge: “Uh, thanks, uh…magpo-propose na ako kay Maan mamaya.” (haha telling her in a matter-of-fact way, not really asking hahaha)
Mom: “Ano?” (parang hindi narinig nang maayos, haha)
Ge: “Magpopropose na ako!”
Mom: “Whaaaaaat!!! Wow!!! Talaga?!? Are you sure? Anong plano mo?” (hahaha, I was laughing really hard when I heard this, parang mix of surpirse and amazement that I’m deciding all of this all by myself!)
Ge: “We’ll have dinner later, then I’ll ask her. Ok na yun.”
Mom: “Wow! Ok. Good luck! Balitaan mo kaagad kami! Sabihan ko si Dad!”

I never told my parents of what my plans was but I’m sure they were hinting me since a few years back, asking me stuff like “Ano na plano nyo ni Maan?” whenever I go home on my free weekends. They’ve known Maan for years already and have always treated her like a daughter. I knew of course that they wouldn’t have any doubts in my decision to marry her.

While waiting for the food, we took a few pictures by the view deck. She told me she was really surprised at me for giving her roses that morning, and two-dozens at that! Haha. (I was still hoping she didn’t have any idea)

This is a great place to unwind after a busy day at the hospital, malapit lang pati!

This is a great place to unwind after a busy day at the hospital, malapit lang pati!

Candle light dinner. Plus pogi points!

Candle light dinner. Plus pogi points!

A few minutes later, the food finally arrived.

Delicious appetizer just because Maan wanted to try the international sausages they had at 9 Spoons haha

Sausage Platter: Delicious appetizer just because Maan wanted to try the international sausages they had at 9 Spoons

Pritson Rolls: Another appetizer we had because it's one of our favorites! It was delicious, but we never finished it and even took some home for take-out, haha

Pritson Rolls: Another appetizer we had because it’s one of our favorites! It was delicious, but we never finished it and even took some home for take-out, haha

Fried Hainanese Chicken

Fried Hainanese Chicken: Maan read somewhere that their Hainanese chicken was great so we definitely tried it! They sure did deliver! Sarap! This came with Hainanese rice on the side.

Crispy Tadyang

Crispy Tadyang: Because I was feeling adventurous and wanted meat so I ordered this fried back-rib. It was good but I’m sure they had better meat selection. Poor choice, boo.

Dahil sobra sobra ang kaba ko that night, my appetite was not as huge as it was. I only ate half of the tadyang, and some hainanese chicken. I didn’t even finish my pritson roll. Maan found it really odd, pero siyempre di ako nagpahuli. Haha. I just told her I was really tired…

She then asked for the menu for us to order desserts. “Naku!” I thought, “Baka magorder siya then sabihin ng waiter na may order na ako!”

A few days earlier, I called Bayleaf to ask if they offered something special for a marriage proposal. The manager told me they could write something on the plates of their desserts. It was perfect, I thought, especially because we Maan and I are both huge fans of desserts! So I finalized the plan with Bayleaf and reserved our dinner.

Another thing I prepared for that night was an AVP. I know that I am not really good with words when I’m speaking, so I decided to just express my feelings through something that I do best: a video of our pictures for the last 8 years. While doing the video, I became emotional seeing how we both grew together, not only physically (haha, tumaba at pumayat na sabay) but also growing with all the experiences we had (surviving intarmed, then med school, and now residency, traveling, eating and studying together). So, for two weeks before the proposal, I was busy browsing pictures, choosing the best ones, recalling all our memories together, and re-ordering them in such a way that at the end of the video is a question that I’ve been meaning to ask her. 🙂 I chose one of her favorite songs This Way by Jewel, and what else but the cliche proposal song Marry Me by Train. Hehe.

After seeing the possible problem, I then told Maan that I needed to go to the restroom and just wait for me before ordering. “Aha, a good escuse to ask the waiters to execute THE PLAN!

So I acted like I was going to the restroom but actually was heading towards the head waiter. After confirming that the desserts I pre-ordered were already ready, and briefing the waiters on what to do, and asking one of them to take our video and picture, I came back to our table and asked Maan what she wanted.

She wanted the Calamansi cheesecake, and I told her I wanted some Churos and the Mango crepe. So I ordered. Little did she know that all those were already pre-ordered. Hahaha.

Then I told her I had a surprise for her. I took out my iPad and showed her this video:

As the video was about to end, I signaled the waiters to serve these deserts while Maan was still busy looking at the iPad screen:

Will You Marry Me?

I told the waiters to serve these delicious desserts while Maan was still busy viewing the video on my iPad. 🙂

When the waiters finished serving, sakto!, the video also ended. She saw the desserts in our table and she was saying “Oh my God!”.  I took the ring out of my pocket (buti she didn’t notice!) and showed her, bent down on one knee and asked her: “Maria Angela de Castro, will you marry me?”

Well, of course she said yes!

She said YES!

She said YES!

We're getting married!

We’re getting married!

We immediately called our parents and texted our friends giving them the great news! Natawa lang ako when a friend asked me, “Congrats! Is it facebook official?!”, haha. We didn’t have internet at that time so when we checked FB after, we were surprised to see that a few others have already expressed their congratulations there. Hahaha! We later finally posted this:

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I was really happy that everything went through as planned. Special thanks to my co-conspirators for all your support:

  • Alvin Chu – my batchmate for going with me to Binondo to get the ring, and plan the proposal! Masyadong effort yung may kanta-kanta pa at post-it from friends, haha, hindi kinaya ng schedule ko, but that would’ve also been a great proposal story!
  • Ly-ann Diwa & my other surgery batchmates – Ly for being my co-rotator in Plastics and cheering me on and calming me down nung nawiwindang na ako haha. Nagwork-out din lahat ng plano! 🙂
  • Kitts Mejia, JA Atienza and Meiling Lee – for always being there when I need you guys, especially making me realize that I’m making the rightest decision ever. 🙂
  • Miya Dayrit and Kathy Reyes – for screaming and crying at the Derma OPD! Haha, nabisto tuloy tayo nina Joey! I showed you the video without telling na magpopropose na ako kay Maan, tas nagulat na lang kayo in the end with the question. Hahaha. 🙂

And of course, thank you Maan for giving me the chance to do all of these. Thanks for accepting my proposal as we finally commit to spending the rest of our lives together! I love you very much! 🙂

Our first picture together as an engaged couple. :)

Our first picture together as an engaged couple. 🙂

This one’s for the groom – The Eldredge Tie Knot

Cool! 🙂

The Undomestic Bride

It’s all about the details!

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Here is an attention grabbing detail that will definitely add a little flair to a simple tux or suit. The Eldredge necktie knot resembles a braid and can be achieved in 15 easy steps.  If you plan on adding this feature to your groom’s or groomsmen’s wedding ensemble, keep the outfit simple and let the tie be the focal point. .

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Need a little more help? Check out the video tutorial here.

Happy planning! xoxo

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Birthday Parties

If you know me for quite a long time, you’ll know that I almost always mark my advancing age with a blast. Almost every year, I am lucky enough to have the chance to celebrate my birthday with a party! I don’t know why I always get to have a party on my own. Probably because I’m special in the family (haha, not a special child mind you), since I was born on November and the rest of the family were all born on July. While they celebrated their birthdays together every July, I had the whole month of November to celebrate mine. And almost every year, my birthday wish was to have a party with friends and family. 🙂

So since today is my birthday, maybe it’s time to take a trip down memory lane and reminisce the best parties I’ve had. 🙂

The first party that I could at least remotely remember was my 3rd birthday party at Jollibee Greenbelt. I think we had jollispaghetti and a mocha cake. My memory from this party mainly comes from pictures, and the cake figurines of Jollibee and Champ I kept as souvenirs.

The next big party I had was during Grade 6 where my elementary friends came over at our house for a wild and wet water balloon party, hahaha. So juvenile, right? Haha. But we had so much fun! So since then, I had an annual party at my house with friends and family coming over for dinner, and later on for some drinks.

Highschool soon came up and my annual party became the annual inuman of the barkada. Yep, I celebrated my 15th to 17th birthday drunk. Haha. Sometimes we’d climb up our roof, even our water tank. Still so juvenile.

I only missed holding a party on my 18th birthday since I was stuck in Manila, studying for a lab exam in Biology. So the following year, my mom and dad treated me to a BIG party again at our house, debut style, haha, complete with 19 tequila shots!

I had the biggest surprise on my 20th birthday when Maan, Sheng, Sandee and the rest of my med friends organized a surprise party for me at Rob 7th Floor with all my classmates invited! It was the first and only time that I had one, and the feeling was so surreal. I couldn’t believe na naitago nila sa akin yun. Haha.

They later confessed that they would announce the details of the party to the whole class whenever I would go to the CR or outside the lecture room to get food. Hahaha, kudos to all of you! 🙂

I celebrated my 21st birthday at Ultra Complex during the Palarong Med, an annual sports competition among med schools in NCR. I didn’t have time to organize a party that year, but I got one of the best birthday present I’ve ever received: our volleyball team won 1st place, and so did many other UP Med varsity teams! Championship trumps a party anytime, hehe.

Maan and I had our first joint party when we celebrated our 22nd birthday together.  We called it The Ge & Maan’s Party, a.k.a. The Priors’ Party since we were both Brother and Sister Prior in the fraternity/sorority that year. We held it in my house, served lots of food and booze, and it was great that our friends, brods and sisses, came all the way from Manila to QC for our party! Saya!

I didn’t really feel like celebrating on my 23rd birthday since we were clinical clerks that year, and well, toxicity got the best of me. Haha. Celebrated my whole day with my blockmates (who surprised me with a chocolate cake!) and Maan (and ate at Cyma Greenbelt). No party again that year.

I was an Intern on my 24th birthday, and since it was my final year in med school, I pledged to hold an all-out wasakan party that year. So I asked the support of my Phi batchmates to celebrate my birthday as a half-way through internship party and called it after our batch name: The Half Life Stag! We rented out a mobile bar, asked them to double the alcohol content of the drinks so people would get really wasak after the party.

Soon found myself to be the one who was the FIRST wasak! Didn’t really remember most of what happened that night, but I’m pretty sure that I was happy. Hahaha. 🙂

I spent my 25th birthday in Boracay as an island doctor. That was my first time moonlighting (ergo, I finally had my own moolah!), and also the first time I spent my birthday away from Metro Manila. Mam Girlie was so galante and prepared a great seafood and inihaw dinner for all of us! So even if I was away from home on my birthday, I did have a grand mini-party at Boracay! 🙂

Last year was my 26th birthday and I vividly remember being stuck at the OR for an emergency operation. Unfortunately, I was on duty (kelan ba hindi, haha),  but after our long OR, I went to Maan for while to find out that a caramel cake was waiting for me! Wee!

But I really didn’t bother to celebrate my birthday last year. I was a first year resident, I had no right. Haha. Pero siyempre, I couldn’t resist my batchmates, so I treated them and Maan in Don Henircos (para walking distance lang, pwedeng tumakas, haha!)

And so we end up to this year, my 27th birthday. Well, this I think was the most benign birthday I’ve had so far. I didn’t hold a party, but  I had a birthday dinner pakain with Bjay  for surgery batchmates at Yakimix and had fun serving food from Amber Restaurant at the Plastics office for the Plastics and Burn teams (sarap ng Pichi-pichi!). Maan and I had dinner at Opus (thank you!!!), and the food was really really great! Topped the night with a Golden Spoon dessert, and Wreck-it-Ralph movie, where I slept in 50% of the time. Hahaha.

It’s really fun to bring back all these memories of my birthday parties. Makes me thankful to have all these great family and friends to share my birthdays with!

Don’t worry, next year I’m planning to hold one helluva party since it falls on a very special date: 11/12/13! Mazel tov everyone!

Audit

Credit goes to the artist who did this! :-) Great artwork, di ko lang alam where I found it though in the internet...

Surgery

This morning I had my very first audit, and yes, I almost cried. Not because of the sharp, stabbing, shameful words thrown at me, nor the accusing stares, and definitely not out of panic or anxiety. I almost cried because my spirit was crushed and I knew, deep down, that they were right.

Guilty as charged.

In the medical field, an “audit” may bring all sorts of feelings — anxiety, panic, frustration, pity, defeat. For those not privy to the term, an audit is when a doctor, usually one who’s still in training (resident/fellow), presents an interesting case to consultants; and this case is, more often than not, a patient who died on his/her own care.

This has been a long standing academic exercise, more like a tradition, in the medical field, to discuss whether the patient was managed appropriately or not. Others may call it an M & M (mortality and morbidity),or a CMR (case management report), and here is where all the real-life drama of medicine actually happens and not get featured at your favorite medical TV series.

An audit is where all the steps of your management of the patient gets stripped down to all the nits and grits — every wrong detail noticed, every wrong move critiqued, nothing escpes the analytical eyes and ears of the bosses. It’s like seeing the presentor being filleted alive, and then eaten (and then be regurgitated, and again be eaten!) In our native terms, kinarne.

I guess all audits goes the same way. The main reason why you are presenting the case is because the consultant who wants the case presented finds or found something wrong in what you did and wants you to learn a valuable lesson. And well, unlucky you, you just have to learn this valuable lesson the hardest way possible: in shame.

And learn I did.

Yes, I admit that there were lapses in management for this patient, and quite unfortunately, our team don’t have anything substantial to excuse us from these lapses. Most of it comes from wrong attitudes on patient care that were passed-on from seniors to juniors. Part of it is complacency. And an even smaller part of it, dare I say it, is negligence.

This was my first time, and probably not my last. As we climb the ladder of hierarchy and become more senior residents, even more patients become our own responsibility. I know I’ve learned a lot today, and in the end, I think, the most important thing that you must learn is acceptance. Accept that you were wrong, and in all certainty, know the right thing to do when you get the chance next time around.

The Proposal

Eight years is quite a long time and so many things can change — our contry’s president has already been replaced, a baby can already start Grade 1, and a first year medical student is already a resident. So many things can happen in eight years, especially in a relationship. Some even believe that to last more than eight years is a very big achievement in itself, a.k.a, surviving the “seven year itch”. Thus for Maan and I to last this long on this rollercoaster of love, a grand celebration was needed.

And this grand celebration included dinner, a ring, an iPad video and… a proposal. Yes, we got engaged on our 8th anniversary and it feels great and exciting to finally commit to someone you’ll love forever and ever!

So in this blog, let me walk you through the events that lead to this very special day. You might catch some tips and tricks if you’re planning your own proposal. 🙂 Women may spend countless nights dreaming of THE big wedding day, but as they say, the proposal is the groom’s game.

This post is actually divided into 6 parts. Read the rest of the other parts here: